coaches wives & families

An integral part of our plan to win is the involvement of the wives and families in the team atmosphere. When a coach is hired into our staff he will need to understand that we are inviting his family to become part of ours. We do not hire coaches, we hire a coach’s family. For me the only way to make things work is the total involvement of a family environment. My wife and children will be a fixture around the field house and team. I would encourage all other coaches to do the same. Making this work adds a little more duties to an already busy schedule. That is why my wife takes her part in heading up a coaches wives group to help build that community.

My wife will structure a monthly get together so that the wives have that ability to get out and be together with others that are experiencing the same thing they are. She will try to structure seating and support for the games so that each wife is not on her own at the games. It is often hard for wives and families to sit among the fans and hear the criticism. Having them together offers support at the game for those difficult times. In general she will work with the other wives to try and foster a strong sense of family among the coaching staff.

I feel that the support of the wives is vitally important for many reasons. First and foremost is that if a coach is getting support at home then they are more likely to do a good job. If the coaches’ wives buy in to being part of the family then they will often push their husband even harder to not lose what they have become part of. In addition it provides a sense of balance for a coach between his home life and his professional life. We want to model for a group of young men what they can become as future husbands and fathers. There is no better way to do that then having them around those families seeing our interaction with our wives and children.

As a coaching staff we will try to acknowledge the importance of the wives and families by first acknowledging the interruption in their normal lives that this profession causes. It is important that the wives are provided with calendar and scheduling updates so that they are not surprised by last minute meetings or obligations.

What we ask of our coach’s wives and families is simple. Join our family. Be supportive. Love our team.